In this intimacy ritual, we will co-create a space of agreement within which to explore fantasies, heal inner wounds, find our fledgling voices, define our masculinity, and claim our sexuality.

 

The first 30 minutes will include a discussion about your childhood experiences of sexual awakening - whether they were private and secret, or shared with others - so that I can learn about the unique ways your sexuality has been shaped and formed. The purpose of this discussion is to remember who you were: what do you remember wanting as a child? What sort of companionship and friendship served you? What did you notice feeling around the older men you trusted? Perhaps a father, a big brother, an older cousin, a camp counsellor, a teacher? What kinds of touch were wanted? What was unwanted? Was trust abused?

 

The remaining time we will explore a roleplay and stay guided by erotic pleasure, in all its numerous forms: we’ll stay in touch with our full bodies to find the grounding and safety that is essential to let our nervous systems relax; we'll activate our breath to help integrate the excitement and emotions that arise; and we will try to understand what you want to learn and receive from this loving, caring, trusted being. Maybe there is a wound to heal. Maybe there is a window into a new world. Maybe we surrender to a deeper level of trust. But we stay committed to the question: how does my inner child want to be touched? How does he want to touch and explore? What helps me feel close and connected?

 

Over the course of one or more sessions, we might slowly craft a ritual of your own choosing that will allow you to reclaim your childhood, whether it was overly sexual or terribly unsexual. Or, perhaps you are ready to step beyond boyhood into your bursting masculinity. Maybe you want to imagine that someone could have been there with you, to witness you in your erotic glory. The ritual can include erotic touch, but is not limited by that. It can include release, but can also be much more than that.

 

When we offer each other this profound freedom, your inner child may get the kind of touch that he never received, he may feel a love deeper than what he knows, and he may learn how to get past his shyness and better voice his desires. He can re-enter the world of sex and relationship - as an adult - with renewed energy and creativity.

 

If you prefer to explore yourself as the benevolent elder, I am more than happy to play with my curious and imaginative inner child.

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Please note: role-plays are purely imaginative and doing this work is not to suggest or encourage the touching of actual minors. 

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Rate: $260 for the first 60 minutes, +$80 for each additional half hour.